Why don't men want my affection?

I just....I don't get it. I try to get men to feel comfortable around me, I try to get them to feel safe and like we can get to know each other without judgment. They're never actually interested in ME, they're interested in getting me into bed. Even when I make it known that I just want to get to know them before sex, they will put on a front, and eventually tell me they don't want anything serious. I try to talk to them, they don't answer texts. I spent $80 on two different video games that I'm not even a big fan of, cause I wanted to show them I could do things they like, as well as things I like. They never ask me to play the game after the first time, and things just fizzle out.

I just want some reciprocity. I just want someone to wanna know me. They don't have to be obsessed with me, or put me on a pedestal, but fuck man, what is so wrong with me? Is it my race? i know black women aren't statistically that desired, but I see plenty of black women in healthy relationships.

So men, what actions/qualities makes you want to get to know someone further? What makes you curious about them?