Neck kisses before an actual kiss?

This guy I’m seeing, we’ve gone on four dates so far. Four really nice dates. He’s my first date ever just because I was never interested in the other guys that asked me out, until I met him. So, because of this lack of experience dating, I’m very clueless on boundaries and the when’s and when-not’s. We have a lot in common, we call almost everyday, text good morning and good night ever since our first date, he asked to take a picture together on our second date, he showed his grandma my picture and she thought I was pretty, we hold hands whenever we’re on dates, he places his hand on my thighs when he drives ever since the third date, he met my parents very briefly on the third date just so they’d be comfortable with him taking me out (I’m Asian), we go try to go on dates once a week, we met a month ago.

I just feel like he often jumps into the next step without taking care of the first step. Like, for example, he would ask what my thoughts are about a day trip to the mountains (4 hour drive) and I said it’s too soon then he clarifies that he meant in about 5 months. But he hasn’t even asked me to be his girlfriend?

Or, while I was on the phone with a friend during the end of our fourth date and he was dropping me off, he kissed my neck very briefly. Then we hugged for a while, I joked for him not to fall asleep. He calls me pretty or cute, I say “gosh you say that a lot I’m starting to question your sincerity” and then I see his face gets a little twitch of upsetness so he grabs my face, he gives me a bunch of little kisses on my cheek and forehead, asks if I believe him now, then he kissed my neck again but more nicely this time. But we haven’t even had our first kiss? I would initiate it but I literally don’t know how to kiss. I read somewhere if a guy does literally everything else but a kiss, a kiss is more emotional so I was thinking maybe he’s just not sure of me yet.

I feel like at this point he’s toying with me. He says he’s looking for a long term relationship, and he keeps dropping hints of “oh that’s boyfriend privilege, I guess we’ll have to do something about that soon.” I thought he would do it in New Year’s Eve because he had plans for a date on that day, but I had to cancel that date since my parents wanted me home (superstitions and what not on New Year’s Eve). Am I being played? Is this a hookup? I just don’t want him to think I’m that type of girl. I like all the physical affections he does, I want to return it but the conditioning of a conservative Asian girl has me thinking what if he thinks less of me if I show physical affection when I’m not even his girlfriend yet