Major lesson I’ve learned from dating

I’ve (26f) been dating for a few years now. What I’ve discovered which may seem obvious to many. Is that dating someone you genuinely find attractive is beneficial. Women are conditioned to look beyond a man’s looks. I’ve always heard to date men who are “medium ugly” or may not be ur type or they’ll say “you’ll grow to find him attractive.” Yet I never did.

I feel guilty for saying it but the men who I thought were initially just cute and gave them a chance I just could not fathom going beyond kissing them. Then I dated a man who I was sexually attracted to and discovered that hey I’m not asexual or gay. I was just dating men I wasn’t attracted to! It was so refreshing. Ik it’s a trivial realization but a realization nonetheless. If ur like me please date men you actually find attractive for their sake and yours!

In my case however sexual attraction isn’t the only necessary thing when dating, bc I didn’t end up sleeping with that guy bc I required more and he wasn’t looking for that. Oh well. But still I’ve learned to recognize that’s just a part of dating. One of many dating lessons. One of my favorite quotes I’ve heard regarding dating is sometimes you date people bc they were just meant to introduce you to something. Like through one man I discovered my favorite flower, and through another i discovered I am sexually attracted to men lol! Who knew!

Edit: for context I have never had sex before.