Y'all ever think that a lot of the loneliness people commonly experience today, is to do with the separation of platonic and romantic intimacy?
I probably didn't explain it that well in the title so I'll elaborate:
In my experience at least as a demisexual and a demiromantic, I don't place friends and lovers in different categories in terms of things like intimacy or the potential of attraction.
To me, the love and intimacy I feel towards my friends and the love and intimacy I feel towards a lover, while different, are of equal value to me.
And while I don't date every friend I've ever had, I kind of go into every friendship with a "I'm not looking to date this person, but I'm open to the idea of that potentially happening" kind of mentality.
I guess as a result of that, I prioritize friendships with a lot of intimacy and vulnerability.
So that got me thinking about how society tends to view romantic relationships as this kind of be all end all, and how platonic relationships are often viewed as less than, ie: the concept of the friendzone and how an ex saying "We can still be friends" is commonly viewed as a negative.
And how because of that view, a lot of people live their lives with unmet intimacy and other emotional needs not just because they're single.
But because this separation of platonic and romantic relationships, and this idea of platonic relationships being of less value than romantic relationships, has led to people not looking at platonic relationships as a potential source of that intimacy and a means to met those other emotional needs.
I've personally met people who for instance, won't hug or put their arm around someone because they view that as an exclusively romantic behavior. Or even people who won't talk about their feelings with a friend because to them that's only something you do in relationships.
What do you guys think?