Partner abandoned me 2 days post Laparoscopy

I had my Lap on Friday 12/6 at 9:30am. My experience afterwards was pretty traumatic in the sense that I woke up in excruciating pain but unable to move at all. I remember thinking “help me it hurts please” and my nurse told me later that I wasn’t thinking that, I was screaming it out loud. They had to re sedated me and push more meds and my second round of waking up was a lot better after that. My doc saw stage 1 beginning stage 2 endo and feels I may have Adenomyosis. Idk if she did any excisions or ablation of the endo, she didn’t mention it to my husband and mom and they didn’t ask her. She did take some biopsies.

Friday night was honestly miserable, I got horrible sick in the car and popped two of my incisions open from puking. And then after getting me in bed my family leaves me for 2 hours to go outside to drink n smoke weed while our dog is crying at the door and nobody would answer their phone when I called for help. I had to try to get up which was fucking impossible and then they finally came in and chastised me for trying to get up.

My husband went to work Saturday, didn’t have time to help me shower so my mom did but she had to leave for work Sunday. So I only really had real help for 1 full day. And he just goes to work yesterday, doesn’t ask if I need help or anything before leaving. He didn’t check in on me at all but wanted to let me know about some tax form we’ll need for filing.. next year. I haven’t showered since Saturday because he’s too busy and I’m afraid to do it by myself because I’ve been getting lightheaded and dizzy still and it scared me that I could fall.

I haven’t even really been able to process the ordeal or the news following, and I feel essentially abandoned by my partner. He even started a huge fight the day before my surgery, and left our house for hours before coming back at some early morning time. He was mad I even wanted my mom to come to the hospital and stay the night, and was irritated I had a friend come over Monday to hang out when she heard I was going to be by myself on pain meds. I’m just venting here because I know I can’t say anything to him without being called inconsiderate or whatever. And he’s telling everyone I’m totally fine! But I’m not! I’m in a lot of pain, I’m struggling to move around still and he’s just sugar coating everything that’s happened so far. It’s really messing with my head n my heart.

Sorry this is longer than I realized.