"does my cishet boyfriend" no

"Does my cishet boyfriend see me as a man/masc?" No

"My partner uses she/her for me but" No

"My boyfriend identifies as straight even though" Leave

"I'm not comfortable with my partner calling herself a lesbian but we got together before I transitioned" Leave

"My partner says they respect my identity but still misgender me/call me their girlfriend/etc" Leave

"My partner 'respects' my identity but 'misses' cis men (or otherwise makes me compete with them)" Leave

No.