3 Incredible dates and one mistake

Hey, all

I (27M) started talking to a match (29F) a few weeks ago. I’ve been out of a 4 year relationship for 6 months, she said it’s been a year since she’s been out of her last relationship.

First date, a cocktail speakeasy that we spent 4 hours at till the bar closed. No physical touch besides a hug at the start and end of the date, but we obviously shared so much about each other over the 4 hours and were smiling/laughing the whole time. Asked for a second date at the end and she seemed excited.

Second date, bar arcade. 6 hours spent when we finished about every activity within 2 hours. We won each other plushies, went bowling etc. sat down and talked forever, more in depth about our lives, families, dating history and what we’re looking for. Something serious for both of us. I was practically in love already. When we left, I asked if I could give her a kiss before saying goodbye and she smiled and said yes, just a short 2-3 second smooch.

Third date, I offered to cook her dinner since she said she doesn’t enjoy cooking. She came over, I took her to the pier by my house since she’s never been to my city, got back home and started cooking. I gave her my iPad while I cooked since I had an art program she was interested in but never got to use. She was smiling the whole time and we were chatting all while cooking. We watched a movie during dinner and after eating, we got a little closer to cuddle. About halfway through, I made a move to kiss her and she reciprocated as we started making out. It got a little more intense, neck kissing, she was grabbing me back and there was no other inappropriate touching, but she was moaning and seemed so into it. I asked if we should move to the bedroom and she replied that she didn’t want to go that fast. I completely understand that and didn’t mention it again. We finished the movie, made out again and when she left, I kissed her before letting her out and apologized for suggesting that if it made her uncomfortable.

Texted again to apologize at the end of the night and she got back saying she had mixed feelings. I reiterated that I’m more than willing to wait to be intimate because I truly see a great connection with her. She did not believe me. She texted once more to say she just doesn’t think she can move forward and I replied that I’m so sorry for what happened and I truly wish her the best.

I’m heartbroken as if this was a year long relationship lol, I felt such a great connection with her. I guess my question is did I do something terribly wrong? Was even suggesting sex a no no? Not that I expected or even needed it, but everywhere I’ve read and all my friends seemed to say 3rd date is THE date. She had never mentioned wanting to take it slow before this, so I guess I never had that information to play it extra safe and make sure I waited for her to tell me when she was ready.