Manager bullying me because of IBS.

I’m honestly upset beyond words today. I have severe IBS-C (plus a hernia) and going through a flare up right now - fecal impaction, pain, nausea, you name it.

Anyways, I was sitting next to my manager at work today and she saw me touching my face in an effort to cool it down (my skin burns up and I get hot sweats). She asked what I was doing and I told her, ‘just trying to cool myself down’. She asked why and I said IBS. My manager is aware of my condition and so is HR. I take longer toilet breaks and sometimes need to work from home.

Anyway, she then asked me several questions about my why I was flaring, which I answered - while I was answering, she was giving me the dirtiest, most unsympathetic stare down. She then made the following comments:

• “Have you maybe tried drinking water” in a super sarcastic tone (First, I had a cup of water on my table and second, she knows how many different treatments I’ve tried for years )

• “maybe you should just stop stressing about it”

• “you’re just a walking problem aren’t you?”

• “You know it’s not a massive deal if you can’t poop right”

Last year, I was about to join a meeting with her in it - whilst waiting for me to join (1 minute) she said ‘oh she’s probably just on the toilet like she always is’. This call had many of my colleagues and seniors in it.

So this isn’t the first time. She’s complained to my colleagues and said she just doesn’t get ‘why it’s such a big deal’.

I’m just so angry. She made me feel so shit even though I’m doing my best to show up at work despite the pain.