How my sis marriage destroyed my family

I come from a very rural background, and my family’s income is not more than 5 LPA. My dad is like a Sufi—he doesn’t think much about the future or material things. In April 2024, my sister’s marriage took place. Since my dad has a good reputation in the village, many guests came, and the marriage cost around ₹15 lakh. We didn’t have any savings or property, so we took loans and borrowed money from local moneylenders (sahukars) who charged interest rates of 5-10%. My family took loans for the marriage and dowry, hoping that after I graduated, I would get a job and pay back all the money.

But I’m from a Tier 3 college where I didn’t get any placement opportunities. I tried off-campus placements and did everything I could, but I still didn’t get any job. One thing that hurts me deeply is that I couldn’t attend my sister’s marriage because I didn’t have enough money to travel from Karnataka to Bihar. I was studying in Karnataka at the time, and I couldn’t afford the trip.

Now, my dad is extremely frustrated because of the loans. He’s unable to generate enough income, and my mom is scheduled for an operation at AIIMS in a few months. She has been suffering from an undiagnosed illness for the past 20 years, and the district hospital couldn’t figure out what it was. Whenever I hear my mom’s voice on the phone, I cry. It’s been weeks—sometimes months—since I’ve called her because it’s too painful to hear her suffering.

My little brother and sister are in the village, and my mom is in Delhi for her treatment. I’m in Karnataka, helping my dad and searching for a job. Yesterday, my little sister called me and said they had nothing to eat at night. She tried to hide her emotions, but after some time, she admitted they only had puffed rice (murmura) to eat. I felt terrible because I was eating my meal while they were going hungry. I called 2-3 friends, and they sent me ₹1,000, which I immediately sent to my sister.

I’m sharing this because I want people to be careful about taking loans for marriages or other expenses. It’s very hard to deal with the consequences. If anyone can help me get a job, it would mean a lot to me and my family.

Edit:- So many people saying that ur father decision was bad i m give u simple synopsis of my father when my father was 4 years old my grand mother commit sucide after that my father was at the age of 4 start working on hotel doing cleaning job but someone help my father to took him to orphanage where my father became religious master but my father still didn't overcome thier child hood trauma