Fiancés family regularly talks crap about my family, and already started talking about my unborn child.

I have an eight month old baby girl and I am currently 5 months pregnant with my second. I know they’re going to be very close in age, but my sister and I have the same age gap (12 months exactly), and so I grew up with the idea that this was normal. I always appreciated the relationship I had with my sister because of our closeness in age.

Before we even announced our second baby to my fiancés family, I accidentally put an Ob appointment in a joint calendar app and she saw it and literally said “umm.. another grandbaby on the way? I mean I wouldn’t mind a second 🥰”. She then went on to say that she had children 18 months apart (meaning she got pregnant with her second at 9 months). I thought this was a very good sign.

When we announced to her, however, it wasn’t the best response. It wasn’t bad, but she didn’t seem happy.

Now comes Christmas. We spent it with my family because my mom still has a young child at home that she goes above and beyond for to keep up Christmas traditions and we wanted my eight month old to experience that. We couldn’t visit my fiancés family because we live 4 hours away, and his parents are split and don’t do much for Christmas meaning we would spend Christmas driving around with our baby just to hang out with a bunch of adults who would want to hold her the entire time.

Well my fiancés sister went to Christmas with their moms side of the family, and when she sees us next (today), she tells us that this whole side of the family was talking trash about us having another baby so soon, including his mom, his cousin (who’s suppose to be his best friend) and grandparents. His mom and grandparents want to be super involved in our first baby’s life and want to hold her constantly, to the point that they even push boundaries, call her “my baby”, want to babysit overnight, post her all the time. His sister didn’t hear too much of it (or maybe she’s just trying not to tell us everything to shield our feelings), but she mentioned that my fiancés cousin/best friend started it by saying “one wasn’t enough” and then everyone started in on the conversation and it got BAD. Now my fiancé is honestly wanting to cut contact with that side of the family. According to both him and his dad, they’ve always been one to disrespect boundaries, create an in- and an out- group with family members for no reason, and talk about family behind their backs while having PLENTY of their own issues that make them super hypocritical.

I don’t know what to do. I’m super hurt that they’re talking about me and the family I’m creating behind my back, but there’s also been more and more coming to the surface about them having talked about me and my family (like my mom and friends), so I’m wondering if going low/no contact would be best.

Kinda just looking for thoughts/advice/what would you do in this situation?