Lots of regrets
My school just had homecoming yesterday. I went with a date as friends, and we didn’t care too much if we stayed with each other that night or separated and went our own ways. I had a good night, but coming on this morning, I have so many regrets.
Last night, I was feeling tired and getting a bit bored, so I went and sat on the couch and watched some hockey on my phone. A girl (not my date) who I have been good friends with for years was not feeling good, and came over and laid in my lap. I think she was looking for comfort, but I really struggle at connecting with people and sort of missed that in the moment. She kept telling me how crappy she felt and how appreciative she was that I let her lay with me. I wasn’t sure what to do, and sort of kept to myself during that interaction.
I have liked her for many many years, but I struggle to read emotions or connect with people on a deep level. I eventually left the party to go home after making sure someone else could watch her and make sure she would be okay.
My issue is I wanted to help, I wanted to be someone she could trust and find comfort in. Yet at the same time I felt guilty that she was coming to me, because I feel I don’t have the social skills in my “tool-belt” to be of use to her. It was this conflict of feelings that made me leave the party early because I was not sure how to handle the situation.
Now that it is morning, I have regrets that I struggle to put into words. I feel bad for leaving her, I feel bad I couldn’t comfort her, and I worry that this may have damaged our friendship in a way I did not intend it to.
Has anyone had any issues like this? How did you work on improving yourself or improving social skills for a situation like this? Should I address yesterday with her, or should I move on?
Thank you guys.