why is it that so many queer kids feel 'different' without having the slightest idea that we're queer?

the only kind of answer i can think of off the top of my head is that neurodivergent ppl are way more likely to be lgbt+

but like, even as a kid when i had a big group of friends and the idea of attraction hadn't occured to me and i was relatively content i still felt different. looking back i can see it was obvious that i was gay but i truly had NO idea until i was 13/14 at least