Quinn vs Cuinn… Husband and I can’t agree.

We just found out we’re expecting a son! We’ve had a few names picked out for a while, for boys it was going to be Ethan or Quinn. It’s turned into such a debate now though, and I don’t want to spend the next six months arguing about it.

A bit of background- my husband is sort of Irish, but embraces it heavily. The rest of his family really doesn’t. I’m barely Irish. (We live in MN, btw).

My husband wants to spell our son’s name Cuinn for a few reasons. First, it’s the Irish spelling. Second, he thinks it looks better as an initial (his name starts with a C and he wants to make baby’s middle name his first name, also Irish tradition). On the other hand, we also have a hyphenated last name. I will be the first to admit, since adopting the hyphenated last name, I never use my middle initial anymore, just my first and the initials of my last name.

I personally can’t stand the spelling for several reasons. First, no one is going to be able to pronounce it. Sure, come at me, there will be a few here and there, but to me it looks like ‘Coo-inn.’ Second, I have a name that’s uncommon and I kind of hate it. I could never find my name on personalized things, no one can spell it, pronounce it, etc. Third, it looks like a certain other word… You know… The c… u… n… one. That’s probably less important, but you get the idea. My main concern is people not being able to pronounce it, spell it, and my son getting picked on at school.

Everyone I’ve spoken to about it; my mom, my aunts, my friends, my MIL, are all on my side. They all think it should be spelled with a ‘Q’.

Now my husband is being extremely stubborn about the whole situation. I’ve tried to tell him my side, I’ve explained to him why I think we should do it with a ‘Q’ and it’s to the point he doesn’t even want to use Quinn if he doesn’t get his way. I’m not opposed to using Ethan, but the second I found out I was having a son, I knew I wanted a Quinn. I’m also worried what if we have another son- are we going to have to go through all this again?

ETA: He’s willing to use Ethan, but refuses to use his first name for a middle name for Ethan, instead would use his dad’s middle name. So if we have another son, we’d definitely be going through all this over again.

So please, strangers of the internet, settle this argument, or at least help me out before I lose my sanity.

Final ETA: Holy shit this blew up. After a discussion with my mother, MIL, and husband, I think we’re moving forward with Quinn. Husband’s a little pissed off, but he’s coming around.