How much weight did you gain throughout pregnancy?

FTM. I just left the OB. I walked in and got my vitals and got weighed per usual. Did my urine sample and then got sent to the room for the rest of the appointment. A few minutes later the tech calls me back out to double check my weight to make sure they recorded it correctly. She then asked me if my last appointment I weighed x amount and I honestly didn’t remember how much I weighed. She sends me back to the room to wait for the doctor and then I hear her tell the doctor that my weight was correct. I felt so embarrassed and scared. Doctor then comes in and tries her best to make me feel ok about it but says “the recommended weight gain in pregnancy is 30-35 lbs. and your at 20 weeks and have already gained 29 lbs and we still have a while to go.” I look at my husband and I feel my whole body heat up and I’m ready to burst into tears. I hold back and she tries to ensure me that it’s alright and I should not start dieting or restricting myself but also still makes me like I’m being unhealthy and gaining so much weight. She suggests I work out or go for walks but I have already been trying to walk at least 1 mile a day. I also have been trying my best to make good choices when it comes to food but I guess not good enough. I just feel so gross and huge now that I’ve been told this and I don’t know I just feel so alone. My husband is trying his best to make me feel better about it but I just feel like he doesn’t get it. So my question is. How much weight did you gain in the first 20 weeks and in your whole pregnancy? Any suggestions on what to do to make myself feel better about this would be great.

Edit: I want to say thank you to all of you wonderful people. It has truly made me feel a lot better about the situation and realize that my OB shouldn’t have spoken to me like that. I will continue to just take care of me and my baby as I see fit. I think I’m doing a pretty good job.