Why do people want others to have partners???
Hellew ! Kasa Kay tumhi? * not a local, but learning *
Pre-Context : I recently moved to Pune from Bengaluru, a couple months back after a job switch. And also had a recent break up in Julyish/starting of August after which I decided to not get into a commitment or anything till 2025 end, as I believe to not let the previous baggage pass on, rather work and heal on ‘em peacefully. Also switch back to fully focused on building good career and physique.
Context : But since I have been here in Pune: 1. My already known 2 guy friends who were living here * where I put my ass down for a week for the initial house hunt * are both in live-in with their respective partners and them being friendly enough allowed me to have a good time exploring the food places. Buttttt soon after a week or two, every time we went out, they have always brought the topic that it’s time for me to get committed, even tried setting up a date for me.
My new flatmates, who are also a pair of couples, but again real friendly and also uber rich, took me to some good spots in the main city. But yep again, they too are always yapping on how I should already find someone and complete this family home, specially when we all get drunk.
My lead, who is a real ass saver in my job though, and ultra friendly during coffee breaks for some reason, in a way mocks me, talking to my other friend who we all know is dating 3 different girls simultaneously that “you should enjoy more and go out with a girl and not with * my name * as he is living 10 years elderly than his age.” * Which aint trueee bruh, 2 years max * To which I said agreed, and then he said that I should enjoy life and find a girl and that he can see his past self in me that’s why he is suggesting what’s right to do at this age.
Song : Reminds me of this line: Once, I was eleven years old, my daddy told me "Go get yourself a wife, or you'll be lonely"
Conclusion: The point being, I’m not sure if it’s Pune or my small sample space of 3 circles with whom I spend my day, as with Bengaluru ( college friend circle and colleagues ) it was almost about apps and startups ngl. Or maybe I was committed at that time majorly so no one really exclaimed like this or I didn’t notice.
Post-Context : Rather I’d love to find an accountability partner (guy or gal) who would love to push for a routine that includes meditating, “gym-ming”, studying (dsa), etcetra. I see 1 LPM earning as a basic than being in a relationship. “It’s time you should earn that much no?” Stop the societal pressure already on yourselves and others too ffs!