People in this sub, do you consider having kids in the future?

Just out of curiosity. Personally, I’ll probably never consider having kids. I feel like my parents toxic personality traits have soaked into me and if I ever become a parent, I’ll just subconsciously be like them.

A lot of people I know feel the same way too. I currently live in China, and people are calling themselves “the last generation”, “The end to generational trauma”. If you go on their social media, 90%+ of the women don’t want to have kids. Sometimes when I listen to my friends talk, I hear their parents through them and it gives me goosebumps.

It’s funny how you’re considered lucky if the parents are not your worst enemy. For most of us there’s no home to fall back on emotionally, but i guess it is what it is ¯_(ツ)_/¯