why do boring people assume unmarried, long term hetero relationships means the dude won’t commit?

i don’t like when women tell other women that if your boyfriend hasn’t proposed after 2 or 3 years, then that means he’s an uncommitted loser who doesn’t love you. it’s such an exhausting npc take.

since when does marriage automatically equate to a loving, healthy, stable relationship?

i personally know of several marriages where the man proposed after a couple years like he was pressured to do. then fast forward 3-5 years and the marriage is full of lies, resentment, poor communication and cheating. and then they’ll add a kid or two into the mix.

yet, there are unmarried couples who have been dating for 5+ years who have very stable, healthy and loving partnerships.

is their relationship less than simply because they aren’t married? lol

then there’s the assumption that the woman is sitting there for 5+ years anxiously waiting for a ring when in reality, many women either don’t want to get married at all or they are prioritizing other things over being a wife.

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