Advice: Moving out of my n mom’s house

I usually don’t turn to Reddit for advice, but I am very stressed out. I am a full-time student with 2 jobs & I am 23 years old. I have a loving Boyfriend but a mom full of hatred unfortunately. She hates him & for no good reason. Long story short, I fear coming home sometimes because of her visceral reactions, mood swings, & controlling behavior. My partner lives next door at his relatives house (temporarily until we can afford an apartment), but he is suggesting ( & everyone else is suggesting) to move in with him to get away from my mom. My mom is very sensitive & she freaks out if I don’t even say thank-you to her, so I am only imagining what her reaction would be if I left. I have been there all my life, it is my childhood home. I understand I may have Stockholm Syndrome & I have been under her control for years, but it just doesn’t seem right to move right now. I am mid-semester, with exams, responsibilities, etc. I am battling mental illness & don’t want to feel like I’m putting that off or anything, but I do not have the means or time to move right now. The deadline to move out was originally the end of the month, because she did threaten to evict me if I am not out by then, but she reneged on that & is being nice to me now. My partner says it is a trap & a facade & not to fall for it. I understand that but I am just not ready to leave this week.

I tried talking to him but he will not change his mind & says this is something I need to do & it is do or die. He cares about me & just wants the best for me, which is why he is being so stubborn in this situation. I don’t want to disappoint him if I don’t move out this Friday, & he mentioned about how it may be a deal breaker. I told him before I want a life with him, but it isn’t enough to tell him. He wants to see effort & resolve in me, which I also understand. He has been here to help with everything thus far, almost 2 years we have been fighting this battle.

I am afraid of my mom’s reaction if I move out & I am afraid of my partner’s reaction if I don’t move out. I am so torn.

Any thoughts would be appreciated..