Frank, Monica and probably my biggest hot take?

So I'm on s8, Monica died and Frank becomes 'Saint Francis' and I think that's great, it's never too late to change I guess (well for his kids it is, he ruined them), but I really hate how he blamed Monica for ruining his lfie? There were some occasions in which they mentioned it was frank who ruined mon, what with him not wanting her to take her medication and being an addicted himself. At the end I just think they both were toxic for each other and the kids.

I actually feel more bad for monica than frank, while I think most of the fandom, and the characters on the show, hated her more than frank and I think this is because she abandoned the kids while frank stayed but the fact she was bipolar it's like touches something in my soul? Lol, like she really loves her kids and when she visits she tries to do what she thinks is the best for her kids like spending money on a car for all of them or buying dolls, while frank just thinks what's best for him, not caring about who screws in the process. The most selfish thing she did was leaving them with frank bc she knew what a selfish irresponsible prick frank was, but I don't think yhe kids would have been better with her.