My boyfriend gets upset every time I work
I’ve only been with my boyfriend for 6 months, he met me at the club and I just instantly felt a connection with him. He took me on a date the next day and we ended up hanging out every single day after that and really hit it off. We were hanging out so much that he told me I should just move in, considering that at the time I had been staying over for the past 3 weeks since we hung out so often. We live together currently, and he’s hated my job since day one. Whenever we first started dating I quit dancing for a few weeks and tried to bartend instead, but I wasn’t making enough money and had to go back to dancing. I really want to make him happy, but I can’t sacrifice my financial stability and future for him. I genuinely can’t think of a way I would finish med school without stripping. He says he understands and he’s okay with me doing it until I finish school, but he doesn’t act that way. I haven’t worked in the past few weeks because every time I do work, he pretends he’s not upset when he clearly is. The days I work he isn’t mean to me, but he seems sad and upset, and it’s just super obvious that it bothers him. I hate seeing him upset and it makes me feel guilty every time I work, but honestly I’m starting to resent him because of it. I don’t understand his perspective being bothered by it, because it’s an act, I don’t establish any connection with the guys I’m making $ from at work and they’re not getting the real me. It’s just a job and money to me. He doesn’t understand my perspective and says he “hates the idea of guys touching me, and sees it only as being slightly better than blowing a guy, if it’s just for money how is that any different than having sex with a guy for money”. I get what he’s saying but I also don’t. Honestly before I was in the industry, and I hate to say this, but I did look down on strippers and I saw it as degrading. After being in the industry, my opinion changed and I see the men that come in as customers as the idiots. I think they’re the stupid ones for having to pay for woman, and if anything it’s degrading to them. I want to work things out with him but honestly if things stay like this much longer I won’t be able to. I have to put myself and my future first. Help me understand his perspective, and how do I get him to understand my perspective and be okay with me working without being upset. I know he’s an insecure person so that may have something to do with it. I kind of get where he’s coming from, but I really can’t sympathize no matter how hard I try because we both see things so differently.