Why is dating in Dar es salaam so hard????

This is more or so venting to than an actual question, maybe one could offer some insight. I’m a Tanzanian that has spent the last 4 years studying abroad and only recently came back in the summer . I’ve noticed that over here cheating is SO normalized , like the men are NOT faithful at all 😂😭. Is it just that Tanzania is a secret polyamorous society or something? Or maybe I’ve just had bad luck?? I honestly do not know. How does one navigate the tz dating scene 😂