I need advice on my toddlers dad.

The father of my child is literally impossible. He has sank himself in to a mountain of debt so he will just go on and on about how he can’t do his fair share with our child because of it. Whatever, I pay for everything but I expect him to do his fair share in terms of, meal prepping, laundry, load dishwasher, help with baths and bedtime routine. He tries for like 2 mins to put her to bed and complains “I just can’t get her down” and so then I spend the next 30-40+ minutes doing that and he just gets pissed then that the dishwasher wasn’t set off or the laundry wasn’t changed over. I’m just annoyed at this point because I just spent the last two hours doing dinner bath bed and he can’t even do that while I’m helping our special needs daughter (she’s autistic). Whenever I tell him it’s been going on too long (2 years) and I just need to move out and live on my own because it’s more stressful to live with him then to just be with her on my own. he gets extremely aggressive and starts pointing his finger in my face and tells me that he’s going to put her on his insurance and file for her on his taxes instead of me and I’m like well I pay for everything so I should claim her on my taxes? He hasn’t even bought her a toy a day in her life… no clothes, diapers nothing… he just shows up for the “look I’m a fun daddy” act.

The only reason I haven’t taken him to court is because I don’t want to risk sharing custody. His idea of babysitting is sticking her in her crib on and iPad while he does whatever he wants to do. Play games on phone or read a book.

He doesn’t even know who her doctors are, her teachers names at daycare etc..

What is your opinion or advice here…