Chart doesn't match with real life

Usually people say that when a planet gets vargottama kartatwas of that planet gets stronger in a person I've 3 vargottama planets my sun is exalted and both vargottama though in same sign a rahu still its 18 degree away but I don't feel like a strong sun I used to be so underconfident I still am but a Lil better i still can't approach or talk confidently with girls or among new people same for jupiter and venus in not that charming or wise why do you think that's the case?

Usually people say that when a planet gets vargottama kartatwas of that planet gets stronger in a person I've 3 vargottama planets my sun is exalted and both vargottama though in same sign a rahu still its 18 degree away but I don't feel like a strong sun I used to be so underconfident I still am but a Lil better i still can't approach or talk confidently with girls or among new people same for jupiter and venus in not that charming or wise why do you think that's the case?