Does Anyone Give Wedding Gifts Anymore?
As my fiancé and I have been planning our wedding coming up in December, we have struggled with if we should do a wedding registry or not. Based on what I have seen in this sub and the comments I have heard from family, friends and coworkers, it seems that giving wedding gifts is becoming less common. We have a small wedding registry and also a honeymoon fund because we thought that was cute, but I am nervous about how this will be perceived.
This has been a topic of discussion recently as my mom plans my bridal shower. She wanted to include a link to our wedding registry on invitations and I did not. I have heard a lot of buzz recently on bridal/wedding showers being “cash grabs” and I didn’t want mine to be perceived that way. She absolutely insisted we add the registry to invitations but I feel nervous about it.
My personal views were that I do not expect gifts, but I did think they were generally seen as customary. Now I am not sure. I personally give gifts when attending events like this. But I don’t want anyone to think I am being greedy or entitled. That would honestly hurt my feelings. But it would hurt my feelings too if we gave gift options and just didn’t really receive any gifts because no one wanted to get us any. It probably wouldn’t be personal but it would feel that way. So I am considering removing our registry/gift links from our wedding website. What do you think?
UPDATE: Thank you everyone for your input! After speaking to my mom, she seems confident a registry will be appreciated by our friends/family! I will say I was inspired by a lot of comments talking about not needing anymore “stuff” and I am right there with you! There really isn’t anything I need as my fiancé and I already live together. So I am going to scale back the registry even further so we don’t end up with things we don’t have room for. If someone is kind enough to gift us something we would love it if they would help us make memories that last a life time on our dream honeymoon! Thank you ❤️