What SUVs fit this bill the most?

Currently have a 2023 Honda Civic but thinking about getting a vehicle with more space for family.

-Want it to be reliable

-Want decent MPG (I have a 20+min work commute)

-Want it to look decent and not give off soccer mom vibes. No minivan either even if it’s the most practical. Bonus if it has somewhat of a rugged/utilitarian look or if I can make it look that way with roof rack, etc.

The one that comes to mind is a 4Runner which could be one of my better options but it looks like it has poor MPG. And I don’t need it to be as off road capable. Plus they seem few and far between. Maybe a more road friendly alternative to it. Thanks!